Does he loves me? This is always my question and maybe all women in the world. Unfortunately this question is very hard to answer and sometime the answer that we got is incorrect. Women and men are not taught how to love or how to identify true love. Many men or most men do not speak or show on what is going on in their minds, there are signs to know what he really feels for you. Men give these signs so that women understand what he feels for her. Men generally do not speak because they are afraid that women aren't feeling the same way.
How will you really know if he really loves you? Many will tell you that all you need to see is that he cares for you, he spends lots of money on you, he treats you like a royalty, and he tells you that he loves you. The truth is that, while all these behaviors are nice, they don't necessarily give you the whole perspective. A man can treat you like a queen until he gets what he wants and then tire of making the effort and expense. These are all dating and courtship behaviors that are expected by society to one degree or another.
Here are the few things we should know if the man really loves you.
1) Does he respect you and demonstrate that respect in every thing he says and does? Respect is a fundamental requirement for the long term success or any relationship; including a romantic relationship.
2) Is he interested in the things that are happening in your life? Does he always talk about himself but never ask how you are doing. This can be a real sign that he does not care or isn't interested in you.
3) Does he pick up the phone to call you and see how you are doing because if he does this means he really cares for you. Make sure that you do not find yourself calling him and when he calls you back he'll say he does call you. He has to be calling you and when you are not expecting it. Is he concerned about your well being and wants to make you happy at all costs?
4) Does he ever mention to you about finally meeting his family and wishing to meet your parents as well? If he does then he is really in love with you because if he is not interested to you he wouldn't even bother to meet your family nor he would bother to introduce you to his parents.
5) Is he touching you and hold you when he is with you. Does he show you affection when you are alone? This can be a real big sign he does care for you because he will show you that he loves you with his touch.
6) Finally does he tell you he loves you? without you saying it to him first. Does he plans his future with you? If he does then you are important to him and he is definitely in love with you and wants to spend the rest of his life for you. He would mostly talk of living together, marriage or kids.
Saturday, November 22, 2008
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Judgeing from your article you are relatively young and as such write about love from the perspective of someone that is young!
Love changes considerably as one grows older as does what you considered love when young which believe me is entirely different!!
Sadly in most cases the true nature of a relationship is not love at all or at least it developes into something that isn't any more!
Lee
Yes, Lee I'm still young. Maybe you are right, as we grow older we change our perspective about love. I'll keep it in mind. Daisy
Thanks Daisy,
it is crucial that you remember this, especially if you want your own relationships to stand the test of time.
True love cannot survive under the weight of the egoic mind!
Which if you know yourself sufficiently well means:
You have at this present moment an ideal of ''your'' perfect person which you will fall in love with.
Whilst you are experiencing the undeniable effects of ''love'' you will for a time at least be blind to the short comings of your partner (and to the effects of the ego) and truly believe they are ''the one.''
However as the effects lessen you will begin to see and judge those attributes displayed by them!
You then have two choices!
1. Ignore them as you love them enough and enjoy these short comings as they make the person you love special. And as you both change through life develope something that is special albeit not what you had expected it to be.
2. Break up!
This is I suspect the current state or trend at the moment with humanity as a whole!
As humanity becomes more and more entrenched in the overwhelming power of the egoic mind you will see that relationships as we see today or indeed in the last century lessen as people seek something that does not exist!
Which is:
An unrealistic dream, an imaginary person that is perfect without fault, which as you already know doesn't exist.
Remember Daisy, the truest saying is ''Life is just one big disappointment.''
This is because of the way the ego works, it sets you up for a fall every time! You expect everything you experience to be fantastic but when it occurs it doesn't live up to your expectations.
Sorry if I'm shattering your illusions of love. I only hope that my words allow you to become at one with how life is and thus satisfied in a person for who they are and not how you want them to be, which of course they never are!
Lee
Thanks Lee for your advice. And don't feel sorry if you feel you are shattering my illusions of love, because you didn't. You just want me to see the reality. Yeah, at the moment this is what I'm feeling. that "Life is just one big disappointment". With the 2 choices you've given I think i'll choose the number 2. I've been blind for so long because I truly love him and I thought he really love's me. I think he just make me believe that he truly love's me deeply or so I think. Stupid me... It's painful but life must go on. I'll just treasure all our happy moments. Thank you for your comments. I was enlightened. He gave me a beautiful gift lol... I never imagine he can do this to me I'm now in pain but they say that "beyond a cloud there's a sun".
Hi......I have seen signs about the feelings of my boyfriend to me.He talks about our future like he wanted us to be together and have kids like 20 kids hahahha then he said what I want is also the thing he wants.He actually tested me and it was a chance for him to know how much I really love him and fight for what I feel inspite of people's critics about our relationship like trying to keep us apart.There was moment that we bond together then after an hour he wanted me to sleep and he write something on a piece of paper but he did not let me see it,he said go to sleep babe.Then when I got to bed after 20 minutes he sit beside on my bed and kiss my lips with his eyes close and saying goodbye.After one day I found a piece of paper it was his handwriting,it says don't find me 'cause I will come back just promise me you won't find another because it is only you that I choose and I love you.I cried 'cause I thought he leaves me but after two days he can't get enough of me.He stalked me wherever I go then that evening we met in the middle of the road without people around us,it was romantic because no one can bother us and we can talk each other well.He says that the important thing is we're still together,I'm just trying to give you a test.I told him,I can't force you to stay with me because you have your freedom but the moment you leave me it gives me pain and I can't stop crying.Then the next day I spend the whole day with him.
These are the things I have notice of my boyfriend's feelings with me.
1.He said I LOVE YOU.
2.He always make jokes.
3.He said he loves teasing a woman and whenever I complain he hugs me and kiss me a lot.
4.He introduced me to his friends,cousins and even to his brother but his father doesn't want him to have a girlfriend and so is my father so we keep our realtionship from them except to the people who are happy in our relationship.
5.He get jealous when I'm with other guy friends.
6.He tells me everything about his past and his experience.He even talk about his problems and his plans including me that he want me to study hard because I am his hope since we're both from different status but I accept him of what and who he is.
7.He is interested knowing my family especially my dad,he said that my dad is intelligent.
8.He shows his cousin my great scores in Accounting,my score was 152 OVER 158.
9.He said that I AM HIS IDOL when it comes to singing because I have a wonderful voice that was his compliment.
10.He said he doesn't want to leave me.
Hi......I have seen signs about the feelings of my boyfriend to me.He talks about our future like he wanted us to be together and have kids like 20 kids hahahha then he said what I want is also the thing he wants.He actually tested me and it was a chance for him to know how much I really love him and fight for what I feel inspite of people's critics about our relationship like trying to keep us apart.There was moment that we bond together then after an hour he wanted me to sleep and he write something on a piece of paper but he did not let me see it,he said go to sleep babe.Then when I got to bed after 20 minutes he sit beside on my bed and kiss my lips with his eyes close and saying goodbye.After one day I found a piece of paper it was his handwriting,it says don't find me 'cause I will come back just promise me you won't find another because it is only you that I choose and I love you.I cried 'cause I thought he leaves me but after two days he can't get enough of me.He stalked me wherever I go then that evening we met in the middle of the road without people around us,it was romantic because no one can bother us and we can talk each other well.He says that the important thing is we're still together,I'm just trying to give you a test.I told him,I can't force you to stay with me because you have your freedom but the moment you leave me it gives me pain and I can't stop crying.Then the next day I spend the whole day with him.
These are the things I have notice of my boyfriend's feelings with me.
1.He said I LOVE YOU.
2.He always make jokes.
3.He said he loves teasing a woman and whenever I complain he hugs me and kiss me a lot.
4.He introduced me to his friends,cousins and even to his brother but his father doesn't want him to have a girlfriend and so is my father so we keep our realtionship from them except to the people who are happy in our relationship.
5.He get jealous when I'm with other guy friends.
6.He tells me everything about his past and his experience.He even talk about his problems and his plans including me that he want me to study hard because I am his hope since we're both from different status but I accept him of what and who he is.
7.He is interested knowing my family especially my dad,he said that my dad is intelligent.
8.He shows his cousin my great scores in Accounting,my score was 152 OVER 158.
9.He said that I AM HIS IDOL when it comes to singing because I have a wonderful voice that was his compliment.
10.He said he doesn't want to leave me.
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