Do you believe in love at first sight? A quick glance, a friendly smile - sometimes it clicks immediately between two persons. Other people take a bit longer to fall in love. Are you the kind of person to fall in love at first sight?
Eye-lock with a guitar, anyone?
If you haven’t experienced it for yourself, you probably don’t believe that Love at First Sight is real. There are plenty of skeptics who chalk it all up to lust or infatuation and refuse to believe that you can really fall in love with someone the first moment you see them.
Scientists study our brain activity and say that it’s quite possible but everyone is free to believe or not to believe.
Some people claim that it happened to them and it was like you raise your head, meet those eyes and tell yourself “It is He/She!”. Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the moment. In some case we won’t even notice those charming eyes in another they can make a lasting impression on us.
There are many factors act in the situation of falling in love from the first sight. These are our ideals, intuition or “fast logic”, imagination, or if when someone meets our unconscious criteria etc. When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to fall in love. Less possibility that it will happen if you are tired, stressed, solving problems in you mind and believe in false ideas.
Love at first sight is a myth to some, and a matter of fact to others. I know couples who have been in love since the moment they met and never looked back. I also have friends who instantaneously fall head over heels for lover after lover, only to have each new liaison flounder and fail. Is the phenomenon of love at first sight really love? Is it lust? or Is it something in between?
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Signs if Your Boyfriend Really Loves You
Does he loves me? This is always my question and maybe all women in the world. Unfortunately this question is very hard to answer and sometime the answer that we got is incorrect. Women and men are not taught how to love or how to identify true love. Many men or most men do not speak or show on what is going on in their minds, there are signs to know what he really feels for you. Men give these signs so that women understand what he feels for her. Men generally do not speak because they are afraid that women aren't feeling the same way.
How will you really know if he really loves you? Many will tell you that all you need to see is that he cares for you, he spends lots of money on you, he treats you like a royalty, and he tells you that he loves you. The truth is that, while all these behaviors are nice, they don't necessarily give you the whole perspective. A man can treat you like a queen until he gets what he wants and then tire of making the effort and expense. These are all dating and courtship behaviors that are expected by society to one degree or another.
Here are the few things we should know if the man really loves you.
1) Does he respect you and demonstrate that respect in every thing he says and does? Respect is a fundamental requirement for the long term success or any relationship; including a romantic relationship.
2) Is he interested in the things that are happening in your life? Does he always talk about himself but never ask how you are doing. This can be a real sign that he does not care or isn't interested in you.
3) Does he pick up the phone to call you and see how you are doing because if he does this means he really cares for you. Make sure that you do not find yourself calling him and when he calls you back he'll say he does call you. He has to be calling you and when you are not expecting it. Is he concerned about your well being and wants to make you happy at all costs?
4) Does he ever mention to you about finally meeting his family and wishing to meet your parents as well? If he does then he is really in love with you because if he is not interested to you he wouldn't even bother to meet your family nor he would bother to introduce you to his parents.
5) Is he touching you and hold you when he is with you. Does he show you affection when you are alone? This can be a real big sign he does care for you because he will show you that he loves you with his touch.
6) Finally does he tell you he loves you? without you saying it to him first. Does he plans his future with you? If he does then you are important to him and he is definitely in love with you and wants to spend the rest of his life for you. He would mostly talk of living together, marriage or kids.
How will you really know if he really loves you? Many will tell you that all you need to see is that he cares for you, he spends lots of money on you, he treats you like a royalty, and he tells you that he loves you. The truth is that, while all these behaviors are nice, they don't necessarily give you the whole perspective. A man can treat you like a queen until he gets what he wants and then tire of making the effort and expense. These are all dating and courtship behaviors that are expected by society to one degree or another.
Here are the few things we should know if the man really loves you.
1) Does he respect you and demonstrate that respect in every thing he says and does? Respect is a fundamental requirement for the long term success or any relationship; including a romantic relationship.
2) Is he interested in the things that are happening in your life? Does he always talk about himself but never ask how you are doing. This can be a real sign that he does not care or isn't interested in you.
3) Does he pick up the phone to call you and see how you are doing because if he does this means he really cares for you. Make sure that you do not find yourself calling him and when he calls you back he'll say he does call you. He has to be calling you and when you are not expecting it. Is he concerned about your well being and wants to make you happy at all costs?
4) Does he ever mention to you about finally meeting his family and wishing to meet your parents as well? If he does then he is really in love with you because if he is not interested to you he wouldn't even bother to meet your family nor he would bother to introduce you to his parents.
5) Is he touching you and hold you when he is with you. Does he show you affection when you are alone? This can be a real big sign he does care for you because he will show you that he loves you with his touch.
6) Finally does he tell you he loves you? without you saying it to him first. Does he plans his future with you? If he does then you are important to him and he is definitely in love with you and wants to spend the rest of his life for you. He would mostly talk of living together, marriage or kids.
Monday, September 29, 2008
Why Love is so Confusing?
Love is the most fulfilling and desirable feeling in a man's life. Everyone one to love and be love. Yet, why there are so many debate about love. Love become so confusing , but why?
Love is the most highly over used and misused word in English language. It is applied and attached to any kind of human reaction and experience. Do you really love chocolate, a particular breakfast cereal or model of automobile? We are living in a consumaristic world. Many Advertisement tell us that we do and our off-handed comments or preferences indicate that we do. But, is that what we really what we want or are the advertisements and cultural clichés we use adding to our confusion about love?
We are living in a society that objectifies on everything that we need to do. We are losing our own self to discover who we really are. Because the media are telling us that appearance are more important: To have a good looks, a handsomely pretty and expensive car, a signature wrist, a designer clothes, purses, bags and shoes. That's what the world want us to be. Though I can't see any bad in it especially if we are guided good enough by our parents. But we are losing are own objective because we see love as like the object that is in our surrounding. We fail to see and experience the real essence of love. We easily fall in love as if we are walking on the water that there is no end but once we lost everything. There we don't have a foundation and the love that we thought we have banished easily because what we felt before was not really love. But a love that we set on our own. Without realizing that love just come in a mysterious way.
I remember the song: Love moves in mysterious way.
There are so many tv series now about complicated relationship. The last TV series I've seen was about a young man inlove with a young woman in town whom the girl inlove with another man. Still, At the same time another beautiful young woman, who use to be married to the nephew professes love for the older leading male character and her older brother is in love with the first beautiful young woman. Complicated? Yes. Confusing?it is all just TV drama and not to be taken seriously. Never-the-less, it adds to the confusion about love. It distorts our point of view and understanding of what love is? On the tv series love is about possession. The plots turn around one character having or possessing another, losing possession and regaining it again. People become love objects and this model of love and relationships is broadcast to millions, for hundreds of hours every week. Most of us know that what we are seeing isn’t love but none the less we are left confused. We know this isn’t love but what is it?
Love is the most profound and fulfilling experience humans can have. We must protect our heart and our love.
Love is the most highly over used and misused word in English language. It is applied and attached to any kind of human reaction and experience. Do you really love chocolate, a particular breakfast cereal or model of automobile? We are living in a consumaristic world. Many Advertisement tell us that we do and our off-handed comments or preferences indicate that we do. But, is that what we really what we want or are the advertisements and cultural clichés we use adding to our confusion about love?
We are living in a society that objectifies on everything that we need to do. We are losing our own self to discover who we really are. Because the media are telling us that appearance are more important: To have a good looks, a handsomely pretty and expensive car, a signature wrist, a designer clothes, purses, bags and shoes. That's what the world want us to be. Though I can't see any bad in it especially if we are guided good enough by our parents. But we are losing are own objective because we see love as like the object that is in our surrounding. We fail to see and experience the real essence of love. We easily fall in love as if we are walking on the water that there is no end but once we lost everything. There we don't have a foundation and the love that we thought we have banished easily because what we felt before was not really love. But a love that we set on our own. Without realizing that love just come in a mysterious way.
I remember the song: Love moves in mysterious way.
There are so many tv series now about complicated relationship. The last TV series I've seen was about a young man inlove with a young woman in town whom the girl inlove with another man. Still, At the same time another beautiful young woman, who use to be married to the nephew professes love for the older leading male character and her older brother is in love with the first beautiful young woman. Complicated? Yes. Confusing?it is all just TV drama and not to be taken seriously. Never-the-less, it adds to the confusion about love. It distorts our point of view and understanding of what love is? On the tv series love is about possession. The plots turn around one character having or possessing another, losing possession and regaining it again. People become love objects and this model of love and relationships is broadcast to millions, for hundreds of hours every week. Most of us know that what we are seeing isn’t love but none the less we are left confused. We know this isn’t love but what is it?
Love is the most profound and fulfilling experience humans can have. We must protect our heart and our love.
Saturday, September 13, 2008
Take a Hold on the One you Love
Love? Love comes only once in a life time, so once it come do not let it pass by.
When love knock on your heart let it in immidiately because it will come and go once a person isn't ready yet to accept it. Once you didn't grab it you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Do not let it happen to you. If you realize that you are inlove with each other make it sure that your relationships will work. Do everthing that you can to enjoy each other company.
Love every moment that you both have together and let each other know just how much you love each other. With my boyfriend I make it sure that he new what I felt toward him. Before I found it hard to commit to someone because I have taken care of myself my whole life. And I always protect myself from heartache. However, when I open my heart with this guy I realize that love is all that matter and I accepted him being who he is. I believe that love is the greatest force in a person's life. When you lost someone you love as if half of your life was gone. Now, with the man I love I always find time to talk to him and make him feel that he's the man I love and cherish.
Love will stand the test of time if people work at it. Nothing will ever comes this easy but its worth the work by both people. Love really is the greatest feeling between a man and a woman. Love always unite both people together. Respect for each other is one of the main ingredient in a relationship. I hope once you find the one you'll love keep him/her and don't let it go. I found mine, my Francesco, mio angelo azzurro.
When love knock on your heart let it in immidiately because it will come and go once a person isn't ready yet to accept it. Once you didn't grab it you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Do not let it happen to you. If you realize that you are inlove with each other make it sure that your relationships will work. Do everthing that you can to enjoy each other company.
Love every moment that you both have together and let each other know just how much you love each other. With my boyfriend I make it sure that he new what I felt toward him. Before I found it hard to commit to someone because I have taken care of myself my whole life. And I always protect myself from heartache. However, when I open my heart with this guy I realize that love is all that matter and I accepted him being who he is. I believe that love is the greatest force in a person's life. When you lost someone you love as if half of your life was gone. Now, with the man I love I always find time to talk to him and make him feel that he's the man I love and cherish.
Love will stand the test of time if people work at it. Nothing will ever comes this easy but its worth the work by both people. Love really is the greatest feeling between a man and a woman. Love always unite both people together. Respect for each other is one of the main ingredient in a relationship. I hope once you find the one you'll love keep him/her and don't let it go. I found mine, my Francesco, mio angelo azzurro.
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
How to Nurture a Relationship
Have you ever ask yourself what to consider in nurturing a relationship to be? You must understand what are your needs and desires from another person, and what are you willing to give them and what are you willing to give up. This case, you can see as early in your first dates, if you wish to continue and work towards a future together, and if the other person feels the same as like how you feel.
Nurturing a relationship means reaching outside yourself. It requires commitment by both individuals and a determination to ensure that the relationship endures. Displaying your love for your partner is one way to nurture your relationships, and it can be done in many ways.
Once you have decided to have an official relationship, you both need to remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. For instance, what attracted you to each other both physically and emotionally? What do you admire about his or her personality? This will help not taking the other for granted, which can often happen after two people have been together for a long time. This does not mean the love is fading, but it does mean that there is lack of effort. People tend to get lazy after a while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This problem can be solved when both people are willing to make the time and effort.
Most women hate the video games and other sport but if you you want to understand your boyfriend or your husband why don't you try to sit there in boredom watching him play? I know a lot of girls complained about video games and other games online. But if you try, one day without knowing it you'll enjoy watching him play and then you'll want to play as well. And certainly you'll find it fun.
By keeping an open mind, we are not only broadened our horizons, but also became closer to our love because we went the extra mile to nurture the relationship. Give it a try ladies...and guys too!
When we receive support and inspiration from our mate, we can face anything!
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